happy birthday to mother
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Today’s birthday isn’t exactly what I wanted to celebrate this year… but it was important for me to get up today and do something nice for someone. And by doing that, I’m sharing with you my favorite way to honor another woman in my life, my mother. So without further adieu, let us take time and appreciate those around us.
Moms. They make this world go round, through every breath and every heartbeat. They keep us safe from danger, they make us laugh, they make us cry, they make us healthy, they make us strong, they make us loved. It feels good to love them and to know that they love us too. But it’s hard to stay away from mothers, especially after becoming one myself. That’s why having some kind of connection to moms matters. A reminder to always love yourself first, and to remember there is nothing wrong with being sad sometimes. There’s no shame in feeling like your life needs to change. You don’t feel alone and vulnerable, you aren’t the only woman going through these things. But we need to remind ourselves that everyone goes through shit, and that doesn’t mean that they have to stay silent. We shouldn’t feel ashamed to speak out because nobody likes us for not being perfect. Remember that there are bigger battles ahead that aren’t about your appearance, or anything else for that matter. In fact, there’s probably bigger battles taking place right now that aren’t taking place at home. It takes strength of character to stand up for yourself if you want to be successful. Being stronger means standing up for yourself while still holding on to people, even though they seem to care little about you. The ability to do both is what sets the real fighter apart. If you let others dictate how you live your life, then don’t have them tell you how to act. Be able to let go. Let go of anything you have no control over, because if you put pressure on yourself, then it will just come oozing out. Because eventually, you’ll find that it’s not working and you’re losing ground. Your kids are beautiful, but they all deserve to grow up into happy, healthy adults who leave this world a little bit happier than they found it. My mom taught me that, in all honesty. She made sure that we grew up together, knowing she was watching over us at each step. No excuses. When I was growing up, I didn’t think twice about using drugs. Now, I always try to set boundaries before opening any new tabs. Just as my parents told me to, when I needed advice, I would ask. As a result, I got clean. Even though I didn’t want to admit it back then, because I didn’t want to risk failing again, the truth was that I needed help; I knew I wasn’t going to get better without it. Growing up with strict boundaries allowed me to experience many changes that shaped who I am today. Today, I wouldn’t do drugs. Not even marijuana, which I’ve learned to respect. For years we’d walk past each other, minding our own business until I would see her eyes light up. Her smile radiated beauty, and she knew that I needed her support. The best thing about her was that she stood up for herself, against every man who tried to push her into something when she didn’t agree to it. At times we fought, yet there were also times when I was able to comfort her, or ask her for some words of advice. Without her love and guidance, my childhood life could have been very different. From drug addiction to bipolar disorder at times, my life became complicated and messy. Yet even though my life and mine have changed so much since my mom introduced me to weed, pot, CBD oil, and everything else, I feel the same strong bond that I had as a child with my mother. When someone asks me how does it feel, I’m honest. Most days I feel like crying but it doesn’t matter. Seeing my children happy has always made me smile. I want them to know that I still love and cherish them even now. Thank you for listening my dear. Sometimes there’s only one place where I have the most fun playing and singing along…
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